Comments on: I’m sad.

By: Alan Hintermeister

Alan Hintermeister — Thu, 12 Mar 2009 23:45:15 +0000

That is a good way to put sadness Edmund. I used to push it away or cover it up with lots of other things too. Actually it doesn’t come around very often. But the sadness I really don’t like is the sadness that is building because things aren’t going well and there is a good chance that they will get worse. The sadness will be really deep like when someone close to me is going to die or when a long-term relationship is not going well. That is the feeling that I have been sitting in for since early yesterday.
The wierd part is kind of enjoying the sadness. Years ago I didn’t feel much of anything except fear. So now sadness and anger have a quiet smile underneath them – kind of supporting them while they pass through.
Glad you are feeling better.

By: Nohea

Nohea — Wed, 14 Jan 2009 06:42:19 +0000

Edmond, interesting piece, sadness seems to be a constant companion for me along with joy or happiness. I too think in the moment of identifying sadness I have a choice. I normally feel what I am feeling and allow it to have its moment.

Yeah its good to have clean socks – Joy allows me the opportunity to decide where to wear them. Since a great deal of my sadness is connected to my loss of Peter and that projected life and the loss of employment, I have lots and lots and lots of clean socks.

Thanks for allowing me an opportunity to wear a pair during a recent visit. Though I am sad about this or that by choosing “Nowhere” I get to be with my feeling NOW and HERE – the present moment.

Sometimes in that moment I too do laundry, straighten the house, cook nurture myself but always knowing from where the motivation comes. Then after a moment I decide on Joy/happiness….they do not replace the sadness or the grief only combine with it to make the day – balanced.

Sometimes BALANCE is as much as I can get

and balance is importance since sometimes while frowning I just
have to go stand on my head, (& smile), its what it takes

and then I’m smiling and being in my sadness and gladness

cause hey – it easily could be different

just saying

By: Edmond

Edmond — Mon, 12 Jan 2009 06:32:32 +0000

Thanks guys for both of your comments. Funny thing – the sadness passed about two hours after I finished writing this piece. It was like a storm front moved in, did its stuff, and passed. Interesting.

Thank you Jeffrey for remembering that nurturing yourself/myself takes many flavors. Cool reminder.

By: Tony

Tony — Sun, 11 Jan 2009 23:44:56 +0000

Yes, men like to fix things.

And be there.

Thanks Edmond.

Thanks Jeffrey.

By: Jeffrey

Jeffrey — Sun, 11 Jan 2009 18:12:22 +0000

Hi Edmond,

I keep coming back and reading this piece. I identify with it in so many ways. The doing laundry part reminds me of the importance of nurturing myself. A couple of months after my mother died, someone asked my how I was doing. For some reason, I went into this long story about how I found myself cooking a lot more meals instead of a cold sandwich or a frozen pizza or a bowl of cereal. The person responded with “Jeffrey, you’re nurturing yourself”. So then I started looking at things I do as nurturing and not mysteries. Thanks for triggering a reminder for me.